A man says to a woman, “Modern day women don’t qualify for Top-Tier men.”
The woman responds, “And you believe you’re a Top-Tier man? By what standard?”
The man is then compelled to detail what makes him a “Top-Tier man”, and therefore out of most women’s league:
“I’m 6’4″ …I make well over $100k a year, and I’m Black.”
6’4″. $100k. Black.
Two physical features and a salary. Is what makes this man “Top-Tier.”
Sigh. I truly wish for better for men.
I’m aware that contemporary dating conversations are absolute brainrot but this post stopped me in my infinite scroll. I felt truly sad that, when confronted with a question about the type of “value” that a man brings to a relationship, the response was so bland and superficial. It is crazy that men will complain about women only wanting them for their money, but when you ask said men what makes them special, their response is…money.
If you don’t see yourself as more than an object, then you get treated…like an object.
What’s sadder is knowing that a lot of men also view themselves by similar superficial standards (just look at the comments and reposts).
The reality is that the balance of power in heterosexual relationships (at least in America) is shifting. Women, especially young women, are increasingly more educated than men. Women are making more money than men in a lot of cases. Women are in positions of power in the business and political world.
Men did not have to develop as well-rounded people because they were needed by women. Men are no longer needed by women. They now have to be wanted by women. And the reality is that many of them aren’t wanted by women. And it’s causing a problem for a lot of men who underdeveloped personalities and a shallow sense of self.
My wish is for men to define themselves by more than what traditional masculinity has told them they have to value as important. Develop some hobbies. Read some books. Increase your empathy. Work on your mental health.Become more socially conscious. Listen to women and involve yourself in the things that interest them. And don’t just pass that shit off as “womanese.”
Black Spasmodic 
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